Last night, my daughter said to me: “I wish I had your black hair… my friend from school is a better painter than me…” in other words, she was describing herself in relation to the people around her.
Comparing is a natural skill of our analytical mind. The problem, and here’s my punch line, is when we IDENTIFY with what the mind says.
In the case of my daughter, she thinks that she is not meeting “the standard” set by mommy and her friend. Who is setting that “standard”? her own mind of course; but because she IDENTIFIES herself with what her mind says, she can not see it.
It’s such a foolish game, because if Osho is right about us being unrepeatable, the very fact that someone is walking a path, means that we can not be walking that same path, not now, not ever! Wishing to be like them and setting that person as our standard of achievement, is simply SELF INFLICTED SUFFERING, and doing it over and over again expecting different results, it’s… well… INSANITY.