A friend of mine mentioned the other day how insightful it was a self-help book she read decades ago. She remembered that one of the exercises was to think about the emotion associated with her worst memory. It took her three months to come up with it. It was “longing”. She explained that her father was always absent due to his work and that when he was home, he was too tired to interact with her and her siblings.
A few days later I asked myself the same question and came up with the word “disappointment”. Because I believe in the power of positive affirmations, I asked Siri, “What’s the opposite of disappointment”. The following came up: success, win, achievement, attainment, […] happiness, miracle, relief, […] euphoria… triumph… pleasure. I’m not kidding. So EVERYTHING that I ever wanted is on the other side of my fear to disappoint people?!!!!!!!
I was so shocked about the accuracy of this simple exercise, that I decided to write this post. So here it is, my friends, a simple exercise in self-reflection that has the potential to liberate you from years of unwanted people and life circumstances.
- Think of the emotion linked to your most traumatic moment. It’s one word.
- Look up the opposite meaning, the antonym.
- Write an affirmation that states that you don’t care about this fear any longer. Don’t worry if this statement doesn’t feel truthful. It’s not supposed to. This is one of those cases where you have to fake it until you make it. You have to imagine it before it becomes a reality.